The Problem with Forgiveness
There's been something on my mind lately that I can't seem to stop thinking about. Based on the title of the post, I'm sure you can make a safe assumption of said post topic. Anyway, yes, this post is about forgiveness. Specifically, what I have learned about forgiveness and why forgiveness doesn't always work.
At first, I was a little thrown by all of the energy I've been spending trying to figure out why I can't forgive certain things, but then I realized these thoughts aren't random at all. I've hit a crossroads where I need to learn to forgive so I can keep moving forward. The question is how?
They say, "forgive and forget" but I don't want to forget because I don't want to relive an experience that really hurt me. So I hold onto it and I don't really forgive. Or I didn't, until I was so unhappy I had to learn to let something go.
So, where do we begin?
Well, I think we have to start at the root of the problem, which is that there are mental attachments we have to the word "forgiveness" that don't coincide with what we actually meant in our heart (i.e. forgive=forget). If these two intentions did align, forgiveness would be easier to do.
How many of you guys have a hard time forgiving something? *Raises hand even though there's no one here to see me*